For most people in our culture, failure has a negative connotation. This perception is understandable. Nobody wants to be a failure because in our society that means you are a loser. People mistakenly assume, however, that experiencing failure makes you become a failure. They equate the verb with the noun. ( In other words, failing means you are a failure.) Nothing could be
further from the truth. You aren’t a failure simply because you fail at something you attempt. The act of failing doesn’t make you a failure. Whether you are a success or a failure is determined how you respond after you fail.
Failure isn’t fatal. Your life doesn’t end when you don’t get a desired result. Your future isn’t ruined because something didn’t turn out the way you wanted. You are not a loser if something goes wrong.
We aren’t so naïve as to believe that all failures are inconsequential. We admit that some failures can seem monumental catastrophes in your life. Maybe you made a colossal mistake at work and were fired. Or maybe you invested your entire retirement account in Pets.com. We aren’t denying that such circumstance are tough. But mistakes like that don’t make you a failure; they do, however, present you with a choice: You can call it quits and give up on life, or you can get back up on your feet and take a proactive approach to life. The choice is yours to make, and the approach that you choose determines whether you are a success or a failure.
Some people are so afraid of failure that they refrain from ever attempting something they haven’t done before. They don’t apply for that better position; they refuse to participate in an athletic competition; they won’t attempt a new hobby. They are afraid to fail, so they don’t even try. How ironic! Their fear of failure prevents them from engaging in new and different experiences. They don’t realize that Webster ( the dictionary guy, not the little kid from the 1980’s sitcom) defines failure as the neglect or omission to do something. Their perspective of failure is backward. Instead of viewing failure as an unsuccessful attempt, they should realize that they become a failure if they refuse the attempt simply because it may not succeed. The greatest failure is the failure to try.
You can put a positive spin on any failure that occurs in your life. You can turn what seems to be a bad thing into a beneficial opportunity.For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “ They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” What are you afraid of trying? Do you see your failures as mistakes or experiences?